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Transitions in marriage

 Marriage is something that is considered very sacred in my family. It is an eternal promise to your significant other. A promise that you will stay by their side through thick and thin.  I know that the view of marriage has changed over the years. Marriage is no longer viewed as a sacred practice. People do not think that marriage is necessary in relationships. Cohabitation occurs before the couple gets married.  But I can understand the fear of the commitment. There is a lot of changes that come with marriage. Your daily routines may change, your traditions may change, and your family life may change. Your routines may change because there may be some things that your partner would need you to alter. You may need to find out better habits, such as compromising on room temperatures, or what side of the bed you sleep on, or times you two wake up. There is a lot you need to agree on as a married couple. There may be fights but you must figure out how to work through the struggles.   Cha
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Dating

 Dating has been a significant ideal in my life. Not that I have been on a lot of course, but the concept of it is really important. But why dating? Dating has so much more to it than just going out with someone and spending time. That is a big part of it but it's more complicated than that. A date should be planned. You should know exactly what you are going to do and possibly have a backup plan if something doesn't work out there. Hangouts are often on the whim. You meet up somewhere and plan what you are going to do afterwards. It is good to plan ahead for a date so that you can inform your date what they should be expecting. If it is a surprise, at least let them know what to bring or wear for the occasion. You don't want your date to show up for a hike in formal wear. That would be no fun for you nor the date. Communication is key for a good date experience.  A date is also something that is often paid for. It doesn't have to be much, but there should be some money
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Gender difference

 Gender has a huge role to play in families. Every gender has their own aspects to bring into caring for and helping out in the family. These differences are not set in stone though. There are cases where not all of these apply. No one is the same. Females tend to be a little more nurturing than males. Their natural instinct when they see a baby is to protect it and care for it. Females are also more social. They are more about communication and talking. Women are more likely to talk for hours with each other about anything and everything. I think the marriage expert, Mark Gungor, explains the female brain very well. In his talk, " A Tale of Two Brains", he describes a female's brain as a ball of wire where everything is connected. They're always thinking, and their brains are always at work. He then connects this to emotion. Women tend to be more emotional than men. They often connect their memories with emotions as well so they tend to remember things for a much lon
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Family Culture and Traditions

I studied a little on families of other cultures this week. The dictionary defines culture as "the customs, arts, social institutions, and achievements of a particular nation, people, or other social group." Families often gain a culture from previous family members. Like tradition, culture is weaved into the  lives of family members for generations.  Every family has their own form of culture, usually passed down from generation to generation. I do believe that every culture has every right to be equally valid (That is as long as it is a culture that doesn't bring danger to others or themselves). Everyone lives their own lives in their own ways. They are accustomed to living that certain way and that is the way they are most effective in raising a family. Everyone should be able to live their own lives they should, as long as they don't do anything to harm others. There are definitely aspects of some cultures that are flawed. If you are able to identify them, you can
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Family systems

 There are many types of families.  Nuclear families: This is the traditional structure. There are two parents and children. Studies made by society have shown that this family structure is the best for raising a family. However, this does not mean there are not flaws in this dynamic. There are always exceptions when it comes to families. Families are varied in more ways than the types. I personally have a very happy and stable family life. I love my parents with every inch of my being and will continue to do so for many years. My parents have raised my siblings and I to be the best people we could be. Single Parent families: This structure is exactly as it sounds. One parent raising one or more children all on their own (with help from friends and family on occasion). This could consist of a single mother or a single father. I have so much respect for these types of families. Raising kids is not an easy task. I find these mothers and fathers so strong. Especially those who are raisi
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Parental guidance

This week, I read a lot about family life. A study has been done seeing what the most intact types of families are. They studied families with heterosexual parents, homosexual parents, divorced and remarried parents, and single parents. There was a fair number of flaws in this study, but they had gathered the general idea for the results. They found families with both a male and a female parent tended to be the most intact family type. This resulted in happier children. These children received better education, had lower rates of depression, lower rates of suicide, and a lower chance of obtaining a criminal record. All of this is not to say that it is the best family type. These numbers were taken from a small sample of people. If the sample had been bigger, the data may be different.  A single parent home may be a safe place for children, but they may reach a time where they may seek for another role model in their life. If it is a single mother home, the child may search for someone
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Family comes in all sizes

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  Hello everyone! My name is Erin Johnson and I am a student studying at Brigham Young University in Idaho. As of writing this, I am 21 years old. I have am in a family of six with four amazing (and slightly irritating) siblings. My parents have raised us in the LDS church and has taught us all to be the people we have become. We love to spend time together and are constantly looking for new adventures to go on together. I have no idea what to write for this as I have never done a single blog in my entire life but we are going to give this thing a go. I have chosen to write this blog regarding the family, thus me informing you all about my own. However, for the majority of the time, I won't be focused on a family like mine. I wish to dedicate this blog to those who have families like my best friend. Families that are consisted of a single parent with one or more children. I have friends who have only ever known the parent raising them and I have friends whose parents have split whe
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